The Shop – Los and Scott this how we do at you guys shop.

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Enjoy Your wife and Life

Enjoy your wife and life and not the noise of life.

Explanation:
Married guys when we are married there is a setting that is a constant. These are things that we chose too. We chose to ask her to marry us, when any conversation happens you are a part of it. I say that to say this; enjoy your wife, really you chose her for a reason. Life is going to happen you can definitely believe that. It will be a lot harder though without her. You have shared everything with her, some tough life things and she has been there for you. You have been there for her as well. The noise of life which can be any number of things will happen if we allow it. That could mean not having conversations that concern both of you. It could also be pursuing other people outside of the marriage. Marriage is not a party it is a decision and can be very great if respected properly.

 

Manhood in America

There seems to be a lack of manhood in America today in not just the black community but in other ethnicities as well. If you are a man and you see a young one struggling to get to his feet, reach out to him and help if allowed.

Some of these young men out here have no idea what it means to be a man. I have 4 sons and I strive everyday to be an example for them and my daughters guy friends. If they need a nugget of inspiration I try to provide it for them. If each of did this for a young man near us; I believe that the little ones now without fathers would begin to heal.

No woman can teach a man to be a man. Mom can support him, but she can’t teach what she doesn’t know. He will have to see what that looks like to become that.

Why do people cheat?

Sometimes I have thoughts that come to mind that I could know why there is so much turnover in relationships between men and women. I don’t; It is, however, a problem for both sexes, one that has existed probably since the beginning of time. Motherhood, priorities, life and any other thing that can inhibit a female’s libido. Men go through this too; so much, so that is has a name called impotence, they both cause a version of sex that is afflicted with a loss of sex drive. What does this mean for the other person that is married to them? Well if they are still sexually active to any extent it implies that this portion of life probably causes them to feel alone or could make them think things could be over.

A lot of couples don’t go into what broke them up when the break-up finally happens, so the person that has the problem caused the rift in the relationship is re-introduced into the world again like nothing has happened or the reason why it happened. If someone is not physically satisfied for whatever reason, it can cause one of the people in the relationship to pull away from the other. Do they have that right? I don’t think so, but countless men and women would argue this with Ph.D.’s just to try and get their emotional point across. If this is something that would pull you in, then maybe just maybe you were not ready to be in a committed relationship where you have sworn to GOD and both families that you would keep each other. It can be hard I would think, to go through something like this I would expect. Creating an entirely new problem is not the answer either. I will say it again communication is the key to finding out what each of you wants from the other.

Marriage though is a sacred trust that is entered into too quickly today. It should be a choice that is made that is not ever broken. However in today’s world it so frequently means until you do something that I don’t like or do something that I need you to do. It was created as a covenant between GOD and the couple that is getting married to one another.

I could probably go deeper into this; I don’t think I have to though this should be enough to get the conversation started.

Until next time this has been,

Nothing to see here folks, just America being America

The election has come and gone. Whether we got who we wanted or not we have a new President of the United States.

There will always be second guessing and people saying and acting out of character what we have to remember is that the President is NOT; GOD. He is a very flawed man of the world trying to manage a country of flawed people. We as Christians have to place our faith in the correct place if it wasn’t there already. This election is probably no different that when Ronald Reagan was elected. Remember he was an entertainer too. There was lot of fallout after his presidency as well and we all survived that.     2 Corinthians 4: 17-18For our present troubles are small and won’t last very long.  Yet they produce for us a glory that vastly outweighs them and will last forever.  So we don’t look at the troubles we can see now; rather, we fix our gaze on things that cannot be seen.  For the things we see now will soon be gone, but the things we cannot see will last forever.” (NLT) – New Living Translation.

This piece of Bible has been used and translated down it a smaller version of itself which simply states “This too shall pass”. Everyone may be caught off guard by the results of last night GOD wasn’t though. He knew exactly what was going to happen and what will happen in your life now as well as in the future. Put your trust in him and all things will become possible.

Women I thought the world was ready for a woman to run the country, other countries have done this and succeeded with a very balanced outlook for their countries going forward. In our country our male ego’s will not allow the possibility that a woman could possibly do a better job. Was this woman flawed of course she comes from flawed humanity as the others have. She did however have the experience needed to be able to handle some of the higher level conversations that Mr. Trump will now be thrust into. She had the polish we needed to maintain the status quo. I think that is what a lot of us were thinking would help.

Maybe this change will be an eye opener. I really don’t think so because as I stated in my opener we have been here before and we didn’t learn from that experience either. So what will make this entertainer different? Nothing at all. He as Ronald Reagan was is a figure head that is fed his lines by the financial institutions and big businesses to keep them in power. The presidency is a job that is held by a person that should have everyone’s best interest at their heart. That has proven to be wrong time and time again. When we allow the wealthy to place a person in front of them for their interests alone we get what we received last night. How much is enough, the insurance companies, finance institutions, medical companies, pharmaceutical companies all of these establishments are for themselves not us.

We have to wait another 4 years before we can hope to put someone different in that office if we will be allowed to. So go to work earn your money, pay your bills, and respect your fellow man. Above all else put your faith where it should be in GOD not man.

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The Movies

Movies, like most; I love watching them I really do. Something I have noticed over the years of watching movies is that; the writer creates this story where a single person can be super human and save humanity all by himself. There is just him/her and the regular people left, any that don’t stand for what the hero does has a real problem because no one can match him/her. Fiction that is what movies are made of.

There are actual people that reach a few of their goals and even amass large amounts of wealth. There are however no superhumans among us. The only perfect person that I have ever heard of is Christ. Yet in his story he took beating after beating for us. He saved the day by dying. Fiction is feel good to our our mortal minds and bodies. Fiction allows us to dream of and imagine. Some who believe the movies may have thoughts of if only I can inject myself with something that can give me superhuman strength(drugs), if only I could fly from the top of this building(suicide), if I can beat anyone at anything in competition(pride). We can’t be the same type of hero we see in the movies. That is fiction, we can be a strong light to other men that may have doubts. To give an uplifting word to a father that may be struggling or down at the moment or even reach back and help if we can.

My thoughts haven’t ever been on anything mind altering; I did have a lot of pride in sport or in developing in the computer world though, in conquering anyone who challenged me on the court or marveling at the creations I am able to make. I thought it was me that had this special ability to play at a higher level than most. Make these grand sites and networks and databases. It wasn’t it is God inside me that allowed me those abilities. I have started my walk with Christ and even though it is not ever easy it is worth it to me. I can’t believe in those movies anymore as I did when I was kid. I am now a man that has his own children and family to guide and protect. I have to believe in the one I know can help me. A super hero can’t save me but God can.

We don’t have anything to lose when we turn ourselves over to Christ and everything to gain. You can still be the same person, a better person because instead of tearing down your wife you now build her up. You help her instead of allowing her to do everything for you and your children. Instead of screaming at your son you speak to him. Instead of drinking a fifth of alcohol or an entire six-pack of beer you maybe have a drink or two a week. It can all happen for you, it really can. I don’t have the answers you need I only started to walk with him myself. Together though we can get the answers we all are seeking and help as many people as we can before its our time.

Thanks for reading, till next post this has been

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The Friend Everyone Longs For

Devotional

The Friend Everyone Longs For

We all have a mental picture of the kind of friends we want to have in our lives. We want friends who will be supportive. Who will stick with us when life is tough. Who will encourage us and not tear us down. Who will not judge us. But today we’re going to flip this around. We are going to consider how we can become the kind of friend for others that we want to have.

Life always begins with becoming rather than finding. Dating is not about finding the right person for your life. Marriage is not about finding the perfect man or woman. No, it’s about becoming the person God wants you to be. In this way, whether you do date and get married… or you don’t… you still win, because you are becoming the person that God wants you to be.

So, with this in mind, we need to look at what it takes to be the kind of friend we want to have in our lives. First, we need to be a friend who is sincere and not phony. A friend with no hidden agendas. A friend who isn’t hypocritical or two-faced. A friend who doesn’t just tell others what they want to hear but speaks the truth.

Second, we need to be a friend who extinguishes evil and celebrates good. We do this by de-escalting conflict insteading of fanning the flames of conflict. We speak the truth as we extend mercy and forgiveness, just like Jesus did for us. While we do not turn a blind eye to the truth, we assume the best of people and are ready to humbly work to restore relationships without thought of personal gain.

Third, we need to be a friend who is open-handed with our resources. We share and actively meet needs.

Fourth, we need to be a friend who rises above the situation. We don’t have to show up to every fight in which we are invited to participate. We can choose to politely withdraw from conflict. To do the unexpected by blessing those who curse us. There is freedom in not having to get even. As we follow God’s purpose and leave it to him to deal with those who curse us, we honor the size of our God and trust he will take care of everything in the very best way.

Fifth, we need to be a friend who moves freely among all people. We all want the friend who says, “I can float with the up-and-ups and the down-and-outs. I can float with the high-and-mighty and be just as happy with those in lower states.” A true friend is there in all circumstances, whether we are at the top or the bottom. The gospel doesn’t treat people differently, and neither should we.

Sixth, we need to be a friend who is a peacemaker. We need to recognize that while we don’t have the power to change others, we can change ourselves. We may not be able to have peace with another person in our lives, but we can have peace toward that person. And if we are at peace with that person, then we are reflecting the gospel. We are living free.

So, today try to be the friend you want to have. By doing so, you will find friends who will recognize the power of the gospel in your life and be drawn closer to God.

Respond

How would you describe the bulk of the friendships that you have had? What do you look for in a friend?

What is the difference between finding a friend and being a friend? What do you find is the most challenging part about being a friend?

If God could do one thing in your life to empower you to “live at peace with everyone,” what would you want it to be?

Becoming Someone vs. Finding Somebody

This was a strong devotional message that I read the other day and thought I would share it with the people that may actually read it.
Hope you enjoy it as much as I did.
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Devotional

Becoming Someone vs. Finding Somebody

In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus taught a kingdom message about what it means to live in relationship. Jesus, after describing God’s care for the smallest parts of his creation—the birds of the air and the flowers in the field—poses this question: “Are you not much more valuable than they?” Jesus says that God is going to provide for us more abundantly than he provides each day for them. We don’t have to be anxious for anything.

Unfortunately, anxiety tends to be a huge part of our lives. We worry about what job we will have. What house we will have. How others will perceive us. This anxiety carries into our relationships. We worry about meeting that special person. The wedding we will have. The children we have to raise. But Jesus says don’t worry about tomorrow, for you have a Father who promises if you will make seeking him a priority, he will make providing for you a priority.

God knows that what you need most is a Maker, not a mate. When you’re focused on the Maker, you won’t be distracted by the cares of this world. When you’re working on falling in love with your Maker, you become the person someone else wants in his or her life.

You can’t control the people who come into your life and how they respond to you, but you can control how you invest in becoming the person God wants you to be. You can burn a lot of energy seeking that right person and miss what you need to work on in yourself.

When you submit yourself to God to be molded, he will move you toward the people he wants you to meet. You don’t have to be anxious about being in the right place at the right time or fear who will miss out. If you commit to submitting to the process of becoming, God will be responsible for the process of bringing. So, if you want to get close to somebody, the answer is to move toward Jesus.

The enemy will try to get you to stress about your relationships and whether you will meet that special person. He knows if he can get you to worry about the future, it robs the power of what God wants to do in you today. The power you need is not in what God has done in the past, though you should certainly celebrate that. It is not in what you hope God will do in the future, though you can have confidence in that. The true power is what God, through Christ, wants you to become in the here and now.

There’s a whole world of people who think their happiness depends on their ability to get what they think they need right now. But true happiness is rooted in a Father who sees what we need and is able to provide into our lives at just the proper time. We have the same needs as everyone else on planet Earth. Food. Clothes. Shelter. We all need the same stuff—we just believe the solution is in bringing those things to God and trusting that he will provide.

Respond

How easy or difficult is it for you to take Jesus’ words at face value and not worry about the future? What do you tend to worry about the most?

What do you find yourself worrying about more: the past or the future? How does this worry affect your relationship with Jesus?

What does it mean to shift your priority from finding somebody to becoming someone? Where do you need God to shape, sculpt, and form you?

Enduring Love Today

images-14How many of us can say that we have an enduring love for anything? I mean sure we like to think we have enduring love for our parents and children that we have because we come from them and they from us. How do we fair in a relationship where our faith comes into to play. Marriage, faith in GOD, friendships, or just plain relationships all need the trust of enduring love if we can muster it. It is not something that comes to us easily. We have to get rid of our ego’s and the shame that has happened in the past that causes us not to be able to see in others what God sees in us. When we are able to do this we can move forward in life with the strength that was meant for us.

I have been seeking this mindset for sometime now and I finally feel that I am beginning to see what we should in each other. It is a fragile state though, we as humans here on earth are vulnerable to every form of doubt imaginable. For me to get to this point in myself I have joined a great church and learning from the life groups available through the church itself. Earlier I didn’t put much faith in church and trying to seek a glimpse of the face of Christ. I now see that there is power in prayer and that we all can make changes in the world by using this powerful tool that is available to us. With all that is going on in the world today we need it in the worst ways.psalm-145

Family and friends that knew me previously will probably think that I am on a Jesus kick now. This couldn’t be farther from the truth, I haven’t gone that way in the slightest. I do faith in Christ and that he is alive in us though. I don’t push my beliefs on anyone that isn’t searching for Christ. I am ready and willing to speak his existence and truth when asked about my personal walk. His Grace is all we need when we are weak, it works best when we are at our weakest.

2nd Corinthians (12:9); Each time he said, “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.” So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me.

I will continue to work on this one because I am still understanding it myself. All relationships will someday cause a strain on the love we have for those in our lives. We may think it is the enduring love that s being called into question when is probably our trust. The two kind of go hand in hand. Our minds will call into question things that have hurt us in the past. This will cause mistrust in those because things may be lining up as they did with a past situation. It will be hard to not listen to those thoughts and suggestions from our conscience’s. We do have to believe that God hasn’t brought us through all that he has only to just leave us cold. He is always with us we just have to trust it.

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