What I remember of you is strength. You and grandmother used to pick up Leslie and I to spend the weekends with you guys. The first few times were a little hard for me because you were in my eyes not approachable very stand-offish, as time went on I noticed that you spoke a different language. One that didn’t consist of a lot of words or great performances; they weren’t needed. Writing this and thinking about how you shaped me for life is tough. We talked only when necessary yet I learned so much in those few conversations. It wasn’t a strange relationship that we had it was a great one, one where you gave me the space to become the man I needed to be. The man you knew I could be and eventually would be. You did that for all of your grand kids and children alike. Your Strength is something that you have an abundance of and have passed that throughout our family with ease. Seeing you each time would fill me up to carry on the next adventure till I saw you next. The 4th of July will have to be the day when you filled my strength tank and the others for the rest of our life’s journey’s. You are now are now physically out of our reach and we will have to carry on from here. I know we as Lomick’s, Earl’s, McKnight’s and Poston’s along with a large community of relatives that loved you will be fine. We will all carry on the strength that you passed out to us. I love you Grandpa
Strength Honor and Grace
It is great when any type of person bares their heart to their loved one that is in the foxhole of life with them and asks for forgiveness for a transgression. What is unrealistic is that a celebrity partner can publicly come out and admit something to their spouse or significant other and the public forgives them. Social media condemns and forgives quicker than real life. It is the world and just how it goes. How does the person who has been lied to, cheated on, etc… handle it? The social media public is everywhere. Everyone has at least one follower to something that they have posted on some website, or social media application.
Just because the followers say the person should be forgiven doesn’t mean that it actually happens any differently for the other person than a regular everyday person living life. The public couple will conduct life just as everyone else, it will just be public for all to see. There will be side-eye, there will be follow-ups, there will be constantly apologies. All this will still take place in their home just like yours until the trust is restored or the relationship or marriage is trashed. So just like you can log on to a website and add your comment to a celebrity’s business or public figures life. It would be nice for you to remember the next time when your relationship comes into play, in a manner similar that which you forgave the TV personality online earlier but can’t forgive your real flesh and blood lover. The world is not in your life you have to live it everyday. People are people the difference is the amount of money that they have. Piece of mind is a lot more important though, if you can’t trust the person who is lying next to you at night and you can’t get back to that level where what they did earlier to make you see them as special is hard to do now because of the mistake or mistakes. It makes the choices to move forward harder and now everything has to be stripped down like taking a car to the metal and re painting it. Sure it may be the same color but now you know each piece that was put on that body to make it look that way. If the apology is real and heartfelt why not listen, it may save your heart and life a lot of pain. Sure it will be hard but so is life.
Till next post, this has been Post.
Manhood in the male community seems to be for sale right now. I say that because of the way a lot of our traditions have been modified to create an accepting policy for just any male “Any Male” no matter the belief system. Myself I have a few true men that I really look up to and listen to and respond accordingly to. I try to make sure that my son’s utilize those same principles. Young men today need to be taught I guess how to speak, I think.
The news has it really messed up trying to relate to that is not realistic.
Television would have the general people who get their news from them “NEWS outlets” believing that what has been reported is just how it is in the world. Those are sounds bytes from a small population of this country. Dads, and other men who have younger guys that look up to them need to always create that safe place for the younger men-tee to be able to speak up. Words have power and if young men won’t use them then their power is being taken from them, every minute they stay quiet or choose to allow violence be their voice.
Too long but I think I addressed what I needed to.
It was a great day yesterday in Bessemer City, NC. We were able to attend my grandfathers annual cookout at his house. What makes it so great is that this guys is ninety-five(95) and able to still do a lot of things and able to carry a conversation on with you. Amazing that he has lived such a full life and still able to enjoy us being there when we arrive and visit with him. It was also good seeing the rest of my aunts and uncles and cousins, but grandpa you are the man. Wish I had a photo from yesterday to add to this post.
Had great conversation and fellowship, an absolute great day.
Enjoy your wife and life and not the noise of life.
Married guys when we are married there is a setting that is a constant. These are things that we chose too. We chose to ask her to marry us, when any conversation happens you are a part of it. I say that to say this; enjoy your wife, really you chose her for a reason. Life is going to happen you can definitely believe that. It will be a lot harder though without her. You have shared everything with her, some tough life things and she has been there for you. You have been there for her as well. The noise of life which can be any number of things will happen if we allow it. That could mean not having conversations that concern both of you. It could also be pursuing other people outside of the marriage. Marriage is not a party it is a decision and can be very great if respected properly.
There seems to be a lack of manhood in America today in not just the black community but in other ethnicities as well. If you are a man and you see a young one struggling to get to his feet, reach out to him and help if allowed.
Some of these young men out here have no idea what it means to be a man. I have 4 sons and I strive everyday to be an example for them and my daughters guy friends. If they need a nugget of inspiration I try to provide it for them. If each of did this for a young man near us; I believe that the little ones now without fathers would begin to heal.
No woman can teach a man to be a man. Mom can support him, but she can’t teach what she doesn’t know. He will have to see what that looks like to become that.
Sometimes I have thoughts that come to mind that I could know why there is so much turnover in relationships between men and women. I don’t; It is, however, a problem for both sexes, one that has existed probably since the beginning of time. Motherhood, priorities, life and any other thing that can inhibit a female’s libido. Men go through this too; so much, so that is has a name called impotence, they both cause a version of sex that is afflicted with a loss of sex drive. What does this mean for the other person that is married to them? Well if they are still sexually active to any extent it implies that this portion of life probably causes them to feel alone or could make them think things could be over.
A lot of couples don’t go into what broke them up when the break-up finally happens, so the person that has the problem caused the rift in the relationship is re-introduced into the world again like nothing has happened or the reason why it happened. If someone is not physically satisfied for whatever reason, it can cause one of the people in the relationship to pull away from the other. Do they have that right? I don’t think so, but countless men and women would argue this with Ph.D.’s just to try and get their emotional point across. If this is something that would pull you in, then maybe just maybe you were not ready to be in a committed relationship where you have sworn to GOD and both families that you would keep each other. It can be hard I would think, to go through something like this I would expect. Creating an entirely new problem is not the answer either. I will say it again communication is the key to finding out what each of you wants from the other.
Marriage though is a sacred trust that is entered into too quickly today. It should be a choice that is made that is not ever broken. However in today’s world it so frequently means until you do something that I don’t like or do something that I need you to do. It was created as a covenant between GOD and the couple that is getting married to one another.
I could probably go deeper into this; I don’t think I have to though this should be enough to get the conversation started.
Until next time this has been,
The election has come and gone. Whether we got who we wanted or not we have a new President of the United States.
There will always be second guessing and people saying and acting out of character what we have to remember is that the President is NOT; GOD. He is a very flawed man of the world trying to manage a country of flawed people. We as Christians have to place our faith in the correct place if it wasn’t there already. This election is probably no different that when Ronald Reagan was elected. Remember he was an entertainer too. There was lot of fallout after his presidency as well and we all survived that. 2 Corinthians 4: 17-18 “For our present troubles are small and won’t last very long. Yet they produce for us a glory that vastly outweighs them and will last forever. So we don’t look at the troubles we can see now; rather, we fix our gaze on things that cannot be seen. For the things we see now will soon be gone, but the things we cannot see will last forever.” (NLT) – New Living Translation.
This piece of Bible has been used and translated down it a smaller version of itself which simply states “This too shall pass”. Everyone may be caught off guard by the results of last night GOD wasn’t though. He knew exactly what was going to happen and what will happen in your life now as well as in the future. Put your trust in him and all things will become possible.
Women I thought the world was ready for a woman to run the country, other countries have done this and succeeded with a very balanced outlook for their countries going forward. In our country our male ego’s will not allow the possibility that a woman could possibly do a better job. Was this woman flawed of course she comes from flawed humanity as the others have. She did however have the experience needed to be able to handle some of the higher level conversations that Mr. Trump will now be thrust into. She had the polish we needed to maintain the status quo. I think that is what a lot of us were thinking would help.
Maybe this change will be an eye opener. I really don’t think so because as I stated in my opener we have been here before and we didn’t learn from that experience either. So what will make this entertainer different? Nothing at all. He as Ronald Reagan was is a figure head that is fed his lines by the financial institutions and big businesses to keep them in power. The presidency is a job that is held by a person that should have everyone’s best interest at their heart. That has proven to be wrong time and time again. When we allow the wealthy to place a person in front of them for their interests alone we get what we received last night. How much is enough, the insurance companies, finance institutions, medical companies, pharmaceutical companies all of these establishments are for themselves not us.
We have to wait another 4 years before we can hope to put someone different in that office if we will be allowed to. So go to work earn your money, pay your bills, and respect your fellow man. Above all else put your faith where it should be in GOD not man.