What I remember of you is strength. You and grandmother used to pick up Leslie and I to spend the weekends with you guys. The first few times were a little hard for me because you were in my eyes not approachable very stand-offish, as time went on I noticed that you spoke a different language. One that didn’t consist of a lot of words or great performances; they weren’t needed. Writing this and thinking about how you shaped me for life is tough. We talked only when necessary yet I learned so much in those few conversations. It wasn’t a strange relationship that we had it was a great one, one where you gave me the space to become the man I needed to be. The man you knew I could be and eventually would be. You did that for all of your grand kids and children alike. Your Strength is something that you have an abundance of and have passed that throughout our family with ease. Seeing you each time would fill me up to carry on the next adventure till I saw you next. The 4th of July will have to be the day when you filled my strength tank and the others for the rest of our life’s journey’s. You are now are now physically out of our reach and we will have to carry on from here. I know we as Lomick’s, Earl’s, McKnight’s and Poston’s along with a large community of relatives that loved you will be fine. We will all carry on the strength that you passed out to us. I love you Grandpa
Strength Honor and Grace
It is great when any type of person bares their heart to their loved one that is in the foxhole of life with them and asks for forgiveness for a transgression. What is unrealistic is that a celebrity partner can publicly come out and admit something to their spouse or significant other and the public forgives them. Social media condemns and forgives quicker than real life. It is the world and just how it goes. How does the person who has been lied to, cheated on, etc… handle it? The social media public is everywhere. Everyone has at least one follower to something that they have posted on some website, or social media application.
Just because the followers say the person should be forgiven doesn’t mean that it actually happens any differently for the other person than a regular everyday person living life. The public couple will conduct life just as everyone else, it will just be public for all to see. There will be side-eye, there will be follow-ups, there will be constantly apologies. All this will still take place in their home just like yours until the trust is restored or the relationship or marriage is trashed. So just like you can log on to a website and add your comment to a celebrity’s business or public figures life. It would be nice for you to remember the next time when your relationship comes into play, in a manner similar that which you forgave the TV personality online earlier but can’t forgive your real flesh and blood lover. The world is not in your life you have to live it everyday. People are people the difference is the amount of money that they have. Piece of mind is a lot more important though, if you can’t trust the person who is lying next to you at night and you can’t get back to that level where what they did earlier to make you see them as special is hard to do now because of the mistake or mistakes. It makes the choices to move forward harder and now everything has to be stripped down like taking a car to the metal and re painting it. Sure it may be the same color but now you know each piece that was put on that body to make it look that way. If the apology is real and heartfelt why not listen, it may save your heart and life a lot of pain. Sure it will be hard but so is life.
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Manhood in the male community seems to be for sale right now. I say that because of the way a lot of our traditions have been modified to create an accepting policy for just any male “Any Male” no matter the belief system. Myself I have a few true men that I really look up to and listen to and respond accordingly to. I try to make sure that my son’s utilize those same principles. Young men today need to be taught I guess how to speak, I think.
The news has it really messed up trying to relate to that is not realistic.
Television would have the general people who get their news from them “NEWS outlets” believing that what has been reported is just how it is in the world. Those are sounds bytes from a small population of this country. Dads, and other men who have younger guys that look up to them need to always create that safe place for the younger men-tee to be able to speak up. Words have power and if young men won’t use them then their power is being taken from them, every minute they stay quiet or choose to allow violence be their voice.
Too long but I think I addressed what I needed to.
It was a great day yesterday in Bessemer City, NC. We were able to attend my grandfathers annual cookout at his house. What makes it so great is that this guys is ninety-five(95) and able to still do a lot of things and able to carry a conversation on with you. Amazing that he has lived such a full life and still able to enjoy us being there when we arrive and visit with him. It was also good seeing the rest of my aunts and uncles and cousins, but grandpa you are the man. Wish I had a photo from yesterday to add to this post.
Had great conversation and fellowship, an absolute great day.