Family Time

Family time is a great thing if you and your spouse can prepare yourselves for it. Having a game night or a bicycle ride is great when done together. We try often to have time together with our children. Thing is how much family time is required? Is it an unlimited requirement where it should be an everyday event or what. Families that have this down let the rest of us know your secret.

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In a relationship, married or not… YOU SHOULD READ THIS!

In a relationship, married or not… YOU SHOULD READ THIS!

MARRIAGE

Reposted to this site – April 29, 2015 at 2:13pm

 

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.

She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.

She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.

When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.

She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outsidethe door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.

On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy.

I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.

Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.

At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed – dead.

My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.– At least, in the eyes of our son— I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.

If you do, you just might save a marriage.

Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.

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Article 23 – Praise and Uplift for my Beautiful Wife

I want to uplift you today Karrie for being a wonderful companion. You make each day sweet to me even the days we have that are not so good.

I know you are struggling mentally to understand your body’s chemistry know that I am with you and will try to be as supportive as I can be. We have to get back on our schedule for exercising regularly; we can’t allow our schedules to dictate our needs.

Love you babe,
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Article 22 – Praise and Uplift for Beautiful Wife

I want uplift you baby for keeping me level and supporting me in what I encounter on a daily basis. If it negative you don’t hesitate to let me know and steer me away from it. After our Lord and savior it is you that help keep my sanity and strength.

I love you so much,
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Article 21 – Praise and Uplift for my Beautiful Wife

I want to praise you today for being patient enough to deal with Isaiah this morning. Yesterday was very hard for me to deal with him after He broke our precious angel. That was a gift that meant something to us both. I sent him to his room for a good long while I think mainly to allow me to not physically punish him.

You heard what I said this morning you were emotional to a point but able to handle it with such grace. Thank you babe for showing me that display.

Love you way more

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Article 19 – Praise and Uplift for my Beautiful Wife

I want to uplift you baby for the wonderful birthday vacation that you accompanied me on this past week. I had no expectations of anything and was able to relax totally.

Thanks babe for hanging with me this past week.

Love you way more,

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Article 18 – Praise and Uplift for my Beautiful Wife

Looking at our lives together babe we have done pretty good for ourselves. The lord has truly blessed our family with an abundance of love and caring that has allowed us to prosper and bloom in this season of our lives together. Even in the earlier days I felt blessed with what we had and how we lived together in such harmony. It has truly been a humbling experience to walk in this life and the blessings that we have been showered with. Sometimes they are a little needy yes but without them I don’t see how we could be as blessed as we are right now.

Our family and our love for one another is something that I wanted to uplift you for today. Without you and the blessings of the lord it would be totally different. A different that I do not want now that I have experienced life with my family.

I love you baby and our blessings too,
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Article 17 – Praise and Uplift for my Beautiful Wife

Looking at you baby as the beautiful and loving person that you are wrapped up in this sexy and sexy body I know I said sexy twice. I only wish you see what I see when I look at you. You are so much more than the slim girl you remember in your head. You are a warm, honest, fair, compassionate, caring, loving, sexy you are just a wonderful person. I could say all types of adjectives that describe you. What I can’t do is make you believe that yourself.

I feel lucky to know you and to have you as my wife. Yes we have areas to work on but you are one of my heroes. You really are.

I love you sexy lady,
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Article 16 – Praise and Uplift for my Beautiful Wife

To my wonderful wife I feel so special to be here in Myrtle Beach, SC with you and have you all to myself. I know that sounds selfish but I always try to be truthful about my feelings. I have no expectations for this time only that we both enjoy it and enjoy one another’s company. I feel truly blessed that we have shared 10 years of my birthdays together and each and every one of them have been special to me. I love spending this time with you and always will. I love you and you are truly my best friend and confidant.

For a very special person,
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Article 15 – Praise and Uplift for my Beautiful Wife

I would like to uplift you for trying to be a mother, wife, lover, friend, babysitter, house cleaner and chef. You gravitate to motherhood mostly and that is a great thing; everything that goes with the mother job you put your all into. I want to also praise you for being there mentally for me as much as you can.

Don’t feel guilty for the way you go through your day. It is a blessing and a curse being a good mother. Some things are going to be neglected. It just happens to be being a lover right now. Don’t dwell on that just focus on being the best lover you can be when the moment happens.

Love you,
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